Men and Abusive Relationships

 

If you're a man in an abusive relationship, it's important to know that you're not alone. It happens to men from all cultures and all walks of life. According to the CDC 1 in 7 men are victims of domestic/relationship violence. However, men are often reluctant to report abuse by women because they feel embarrassed, or they fear they won't be believed, or worse, since they are men they will be seen as causing the violence.

 

An abusive partner may hit, kick, bite, punch, spit, throw things, or destroy your possessions. To make up for any difference in strength, she may attack you while you're asleep or otherwise catch you by surprise. She may also strike you with an object, abuse or threaten your children, or harm your pets.  Of course, domestic/relationship abuse is not limited to violence. Your partner may also:

 

  • Verbally abuse you, belittle you, or humiliate you in front of friends, colleagues, or family, or on social media sites.
     

  • Be possessive, act jealous, or harass you with accusations of being unfaithful.
     

  • Take away your car keys or medications; try to control where you go and who you see.
     

  • Try to control how you spend money or deliberately default on joint financial obligations.
     

  • Make false allegations about you to your friends, employer, or the police, or find other ways to manipulate and isolate you.
     

  • Threaten to leave you and prevent you from seeing your kids if you report the abuse.

     

 

If you see yourself in this situation or you see a friend or family member… here are some resources: