A partner who:
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Wants to move too quickly into the relationship.
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Does not honor your boundaries.
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Tells you what to wear or how to behave.
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Is excessively jealous and accuses you of having other relationships.
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Wants to know where you are all of the time and frequently calls, emails and texts you throughout the day.
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Criticizes you or puts you down; most commonly tells you that you are "crazy," "stupid", “ugly” and/or "fat," or that no one would ever want or love you.
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Says one thing and does another.
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Takes no responsibility for their behavior and blames others. • Has a history of a “short fuse.”
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Blames the failure of previous relationships on their partner, “My ex was the reason the relationship ended.”
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Grew up in an abusive or violent home. • Insists that you stop spending time with your friends or family. • Won’t let you go out with your friends, without him/her.
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Seems "too good to be true."
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Insists that you stop participating in your personal interests.
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Rages out of control and is impulsive – then is quick to say “sorry, I promise it won’t happen again”
Pay attention to the “red flags “and trust your instincts. Survivors of relationship violence frequently report that their instincts told them that there was something wrong but many disregarded the warning signs and didn’t see that these RED FLAGS were those of an abusive relationship. Keeping in touch with your support systems (friends and family) and participating in good self-care is important to loving yourself. If you see yourself or anyone you love, in the examples above, pleaseTALK to someone.
No one deserves to be treated this way.